Marriage is hard. If it is easy something is wrong. Take some time and read up on 3 tips that have helped my marriage stay happily intact for 17 years.
3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Last
After we say those two magical words, “I do,” the real work starts in a marriage. Marriage is not easy by any means, and if you go in believing that it is all sunshine and roses you will be sadly disappointed in the long run. Marriage is not getting your way 100% of the time. Saying “I do” means you are ready to compromise in your commitment. An agreement “until death do you part.” Marriage is a commitment to the love of your life to work out the hard times and bask in the glory of the good times.
First, in a marriage, you have to have communication. Communication can save a marriage from the brink of danger. Both parties need to be able to communicate their feelings and emotions in a healthy way. Yelling, screaming, and throwing things is not healthy. Bottling up your emotions is not healthy either. You are headed down the road to divorce if you can not communicate effectively. There is counseling if you and your spouse can not talk to each other. There is private counseling or church counseling that you can attend. In counseling, the counselor will teach you how effectively talk to each other and how to be able to listen to what your spouse is trying to say.
Second, keep no secrets from your spouse. It does not matter if it is about your job, finances, bills or family issues. Yes, this fits under communication, but if you can not communicate you are likely keeping secrets. If an unexpected bill comes up, let your spouse know right away. This way you both are on the same page, and there is no guilt keeping you up at night or causing you to withdraw from your spouse. If something happens in the family, be open about it. When you get married, you are also marrying the family also.
Third, Simply put don’t cheat. Cheating is a lack of communication and keeping secrets. There are a few types of affairs you can have. Emotional, physical, and one night stand to name a few. If you are that unhappy in your marriage, say you are unhappy, leave and file for divorce. If you are married, there is no excuse for an affair. Again, you took vows in front of your family and friends to love your partner until death. One does not just wake up and think, today is a good day to sleep with someone other than their spouse. Cheating ruins a marriage. It can also affect the children if there are any.
You married the person you did because you loved them. Love does just not end. You do not wake up fallen out of love. Look at most our grandparents. Rarely did they get a divorce. Why? Because they took the time to fix their issues. They put the time and energy to figure out what worked for them. What works for some, may not work for you but what do you have to lose by trying.
With this in mind, Leave a comment on your tips and tricks to keeping your marriage going strong.